What to Do if You Have a Bad ‘Break Up’ With Your Housemate

Replacing a housemate can be somewhat tricky. Bringing someone new into the dynamic of your home always changes things a little, and while if you make the right choice it may well be a change for the better, sometimes, sadly, house share situations can end up with personality clashes, or with people who simply aren’t cut out for sharing a home with others making their way into your life.

When you are finding living with one member of your house share difficult, it can be stressful, and make you and others feel like spending time in your home isn’t worth the potential for arguments, selfish behaviour and frustration. In some cases, where issues can’t be resolved, someone ends up leaving – at the request of the other housemates, or the landlord.

These house share break ups can be troublesome, especially if your old problem housemate has not taken having to move out well. Here are some tips for moving on from this situation effectively.

Make Sure Any Damage or Inventory Loss is Noted, And The House Is Secure

When someone has moved out under acrimonious circumstances, it can have repercussions for you if they lost or damaged any of the inventory the house came with. Depending on how you organise things with your letting agent or landlord, it can be best to discuss things with them and have them go over the full household inventory as it now stands, so you won’t be blamed for any damages done by the old housemate when you yourself decide to move on and want your deposit back.

Another thing to consider is getting the locks changed. Although you would expect that your former housemate would give back any keys when they leave, it can of course be possible for them to take copies, and it never hurts to secure the home and get new keys ready for the next incoming housemate. Changing locks doesn’t take long, and your landlord will usually cover the cost, so find a good locksmith like these lock smiths in Clapham and change front and back door locks, and anything else your old housemate had the keys to.

Resolve Any Shared Bills

If you shared the cost of bills, then you may have bills still to come that your housemate should by rights contribute towards. Resolve any current bills before they leave, then make sure you have a way to contact them if you need to over the coming months. If you know where they work, this can help as sometimes ejected housemates may seemingly vanish as far as their former house share people are concerned!

Be Honest with Their Replacement Housemate

You will no doubt have found out a lot from the experience about the kind of person you find it hard to live with, and so you’ll have a better chance of choosing someone suitable this time around. However, it is best to be honest with the new incoming housemate about what happened and what the issues are. They’ll find it easier to settle in if they don’t feel there is something the rest of you are all in on that you aren’t telling them, and of course it will give them an idea of the kind of behaviours you don’t like, which will help them too to assess whether you’ll make a good household together.


Sharing a house can be a learning experience and most people have a housemate at some point that they don’t get along with. If you are in a situation that has escalated to someone actually having to leave, these are the best ways to move on.